Love, devotion, and companionship are based on inside-out factors where we connect our true needs with how our partners make us feel. Establishing this healthy dependency takes work and commitment.  In Living Inside-Out: The Go-To Guide for the Overwhelmed, Overworked & Overcommitted, nationally renowned marriage and family therapist Dr. Greer suggests the following 5 keys to building lasting relationships;

Focus on how you are being.  This means being present on your being in a relationship instead of what the other person is doing.

Identify your core needs.  Do your needs revolve around things such as approval and respect?  Identify and recognize which needs you are responsible for.

Access your pain.  Accessing any painful feelings (such as disappointment or rejection) behind any of your defensive or reactive behaviors will help you to respond to what may trigger your reactions to others.

Stay self-centered.  Being self-centered, and not selfish, help you balance your needs instead of expecting your partner to fill in the blanks.  It also reduces over-reliance on others to fulfill our basic needs.

Cultivate healthy dependency.  The art of being a couple involves creating a healthy dependency in which it is okay to depend on your partner, while maintaining your autonomy and celebrating your individual identity.

These keys are meant to help us create successful relationships without losing ourselves in the process or consistently feeding  unhealthy neediness. The concept of fifty-fifty relationships is a myth.  Sometimes it is eighty-twenty. Sometimes it is ninety-ten. Sometimes it is forty-sixty or thirty-seventy.  But it all comes out in the wash.  My parents say that they follow the sixty-forty rule where the other person is always sixty percent or more of the time right.  And that has been the key to their forty plus years of marriage.

The notion of compromise means we have to be willing to give one hundred percent of ourselves over the long haul.  At times, this means giving in to the other person’s needs and putting our own needs aside for a while.   For most of us, giving in to compromise feels like we are giving up.  But, it is not about sacrifice.  One hundred percent of ourselves sometimes equals twenty percent of the share over time.  As we become more conscious of our own self-centered needs, we can choose to trust that our eighty percent is around the corner.  When we being to unconditionally love ourselves, become more willing to compromise, and accept our truth and needs, it becomes almost effortless to unconditionally love our partners.  This unconditional love is a powerful seed for planting reciprocity.

Many of us, at some point in our lives, have struggled with eating and fitness choices.  We know the basic reason we gain weight – that is, we ingest more calories than we burn off.  We need food of course.  We love our food because it often represents comfort, security, and a love affair in our lives.  Couple these factors with hectic schedules and the convenience of fast foods and eating well becomes the last priority in our long list of things to do.

So what is our initial reaction?  We attempt diets and exercise programs which we may or may not follow.  This results in our ending up heavier and unhealthier and often beating ourselves up when we fail to sustain a routine.  Our state of health is diminished and directly affects how we fell physically and mentally.  It also determines what chronic diseases we might experience due to poor nutrition, overeating, and other lifestyle choices. Knowing this, how can you use healthy eating tips effectively?  Thanks to your brain power and the power of personal accountability, you can change our lives and adopt better eating habits.  These healthy eating tips can become effective tools in managing your daily life. 

When we eat healthy and exercise often, we reduce stress and gain more confidence and the way that we feel about ourselves improves.  Feeling better about ourselves has a ripple effect into every area of our lives including our relationships, careers, and finances. These are compelling reasons for us to overcome the challenges of getting off the unhealthy track.  To restart on your healthy track choose today to make conscious decisions to reach your ultimate health goals. Make the most of the wealth of expert information around you such as the following guiding tips based on recent discussions with nationally renowned physician, Nuval system inventor, and nutrition authority, David Katz, M.D.

Below are a few healthy eating tips to help you start living healthier today;

Stop the diet craze. Create a lifestyle of healthy eating.  Diets can leave us feeling deprived and depleted and often unintentionally distract us from focusing on long-term good health.

Eat vegetables and fruit.  Most of the options in these categories allow us to eat more without ingesting a huge number of calories.

Eat smaller quantities more often.  Eat in moderation by eating smaller means throughout the day.  Select foods such as fruit and vegetables which are high in nutrients and low in calories.

Eat high-volume foods. Foods high in volume such as vegetables, fruits, and broth-based soups fill you up and are often low in calories.  These foods are also generally rich in nutrients which are especially important if you are trying to lose weight.

Take in fiber content.  Eating high-fiber food reduces your risk of chronic diseases including heart disease, diabetes, and cancer.  The fiber also aids in controlling your appetite.

Watch fat content. Select foods that are naturally low in fat. Make a particular effort to minimize saturated and trans fat.  Be sure to include healthful mono- and polyunsaturated fats.

Eat organic or 100% natural foods. Become a savvy shopper and read labels carefully. Look for locations which offer budget-friendly options on these types of foods.

Choose processed and fast food wisely.  Not all fast foods are created equally.  There are healthier options today.  Read labels and watch for hidden fat, sodium, and sugars.

Eat and snack well. Eat moderate meals and incorporate snacks each day with two or three hours between meals.

Drink plenty of water.  Drink eight to ten 8-ounce glasses of water a day.  Organic green tea is a great option too.

Using healthy eating tips helps you to embrace a healthier lifestyle every day.   Remember that your health is directly related to your happiness.  Your health is an inside-out lifestyle choice based on personal choices and determined actions.  You have the power and the resources every day to feel vital and alive!

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So what is our initial reaction?  We attempt diets and exercise programs which we may or may not follow.  This results in our ending up heavier and unhealthier and often beating ourselves up when we fail to sustain a routine.  Our state of health is diminished and directly affects how we fell physically and mentally.  It also determines what chronic diseases we might experience due to poor nutrition, overeating, and other lifestyle choices. Knowing this, how can you use healthy eating tips effectively?  Thanks to your brain power and the power of personal accountability, you can change our lives and adopt better eating habits.  These healthy eating tips can become effective tools in managing your daily life. 

When we eat healthy and exercise often, we reduce stress and gain more confidence and the way that we feel about ourselves improves.  Feeling better about ourselves has a ripple effect into every area of our lives including our relationships, careers, and finances. These are compelling reasons for us to overcome the challenges of getting off the unhealthy track.  To restart on your healthy track choose today to make conscious decisions to reach your ultimate health goals. Make the most of the wealth of expert information around you such as the following guiding tips based on recent discussions with nationally renowned physician, Nuval system inventor, and nutrition authority, David Katz, M.D.

Below are a few healthy eating tips to help you start living healthier today;

Stop the diet craze. Create a lifestyle of healthy eating.  Diets can leave us feeling deprived and depleted and often unintentionally distract us from focusing on long-term good health.

Eat vegetables and fruit.  Most of the options in these categories allow us to eat more without ingesting a huge number of calories.

Eat smaller quantities more often.  Eat in moderation by eating smaller means throughout the day.  Select foods such as fruit and vegetables which are high in nutrients and low in calories.

Eat high-volume foods. Foods high in volume such as vegetables, fruits, and broth-based soups fill you up and are often low in calories.  These foods are also generally rich in nutrients which are especially important if you are trying to lose weight.

Take in fiber content.  Eating high-fiber food reduces your risk of chronic diseases including heart disease, diabetes, and cancer.  The fiber also aids in controlling your appetite.

Watch fat content. Select foods that are naturally low in fat. Make a particular effort to minimize saturated and trans fat.  Be sure to include healthful mono- and polyunsaturated fats.

Eat organic or 100% natural foods. Become a savvy shopper and read labels carefully. Look for locations which offer budget-friendly options on these types of foods.

Choose processed and fast food wisely.  Not all fast foods are created equally.  There are healthier options today.  Read labels and watch for hidden fat, sodium, and sugars.

Eat and snack well. Eat moderate meals and incorporate snacks each day with two or three hours between meals.

Drink plenty of water.  Drink eight to ten 8-ounce glasses of water a day.  Organic green tea is a great option too.

Using healthy eating tips helps you to embrace a healthier lifestyle every day.   Remember that your health is directly related to your happiness.  Your health is an inside-out lifestyle choice based on personal choices and determined actions.  You have the power and the resources every day to feel vital and alive!

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The state of being stuck takes on a life of its own and can begin to define who we are. We would like more time, less anxiety; more joy, less regret.  We want a better life, a more fulfilling job, or a deeper sense of relationship but end up tolerating the lives we have because they are familiar. Even the most determined people know what it feels like to stand at a crossroads and not know where to go. So they stand there…stuck. 

Everyone knows “stuck”. I know I have. In the past several years I have encountered people with familiar life challenges; unfulfilled dreams, broken hearts and promises, financial turmoil, failed businesses, conflicted communication, weight challenges, and low self-esteem.  They are overworked, overcommitted, overwhelmed and obsessed with the quick fix – even though it fixes nothing.

On a deeper level, they are searching for answers but ask people what they are searching for and they do not know exactly.  Why do we sabotage ourselves? How do we create our own obstacles? How can we produce real change?

For more than 20 years, I have studied the how’s and why’s of our behavior and our choices.  Many of us don’t realize how we unknowingly prevent ourselves from living the very life that we say we want. We come up with all kinds of rationalizations for why we can’t do something and all sorts of ways to maneuver around our best interests. We choose to cling to fantasy instead of embracing reality. 

Eventually, some of us begin to question ourselves in an effort to change. Once we begin to question and change our beliefs and perceptions, we inadvertently start to make different choices and decisions.  By making conscious decisions, you expand your freedom to make the choices that reflect your truth, not your story.  This allows you to clear the way to live your potential instead of your unconscious expectations.

If we want to create real change in our lives, we must choose to do something different. At a certain point in our lives, we may finally say to ourselves, “This is it.  I want to live my life differently from this moment on and I’m willing to do everything in my power to create a shift to embrace a new way of being”. But how do we embrace this new way of being? 

The answers we are seeking lie within us – in the power of our inner wisdom. The key is to turn our over-reliance on things outside of ourselves to a confidence in being able to manage our own lives.  The challenge we face is realizing our ability to overcome our fears.  Fears are what drum up negative self-talk and limiting beliefs. By emotionally reacting to our fears instead of choosing to respond to our inner wisdom we rob ourselves of opportunities to increase the freedom we have to live the life we desire. 

To be successful in changing our lives, we must realize that our emotions are the key to manifesting our desires.  It is true that we are not automated machines. We feel and therefore we react. What we have though is the freedom to consciously choose how to react to each moment of our lives and even the greatest adversity. Our reactions can get us further toward our joy and prosperity and good health or not.

When you trust your inner wisdom and have the courage to follow it, you learn to take responsibility, without blame or shame, for the life you have experienced. In this process of change, you consciously begin the shift to living your life from the inside-out instead of looking to everyone and everything else to define your life. 

As human beings, we have the innate wisdom and capacity to transform our lives, reach our goals, fulfill our purpose and to be who we are meant to be.  Your journey, no matter how painful, was perfectly choreographed to bring you to where you are now.  And in this moment, as in every moment, you are free to dream bigger, willingly accept your heart’s desires, and to be a positive influence on others and your world.

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The state of being stuck takes on a life of its own and can begin to define who we are. We would like more time, less anxiety; more joy, less regret.  We want a better life, a more fulfilling job, or a deeper sense of relationship but end up tolerating the lives we have because they are familiar. Even the most determined people know what it feels like to stand at a crossroads and not know where to go. So they stand there…stuck. 

Everyone knows “stuck”. I know I have. In the past several years I have encountered people with familiar life challenges; unfulfilled dreams, broken hearts and promises, financial turmoil, failed businesses, conflicted communication, weight challenges, and low self-esteem.  They are overworked, overcommitted, overwhelmed and obsessed with the quick fix – even though it fixes nothing.

On a deeper level, they are searching for answers but ask people what they are searching for and they do not know exactly.  Why do we sabotage ourselves? How do we create our own obstacles? How can we produce real change?

For more than 20 years, I have studied the how’s and why’s of our behavior and our choices.  Many of us don’t realize how we unknowingly prevent ourselves from living the very life that we say we want. We come up with all kinds of rationalizations for why we can’t do something and all sorts of ways to maneuver around our best interests. We choose to cling to fantasy instead of embracing reality. 

Eventually, some of us begin to question ourselves in an effort to change. Once we begin to question and change our beliefs and perceptions, we inadvertently start to make different choices and decisions.  By making conscious decisions, you expand your freedom to make the choices that reflect your truth, not your story.  This allows you to clear the way to live your potential instead of your unconscious expectations.

If we want to create real change in our lives, we must choose to do something different. At a certain point in our lives, we may finally say to ourselves, “This is it.  I want to live my life differently from this moment on and I’m willing to do everything in my power to create a shift to embrace a new way of being”. But how do we embrace this new way of being? 

The answers we are seeking lie within us – in the power of our inner wisdom. The key is to turn our over-reliance on things outside of ourselves to a confidence in being able to manage our own lives.  The challenge we face is realizing our ability to overcome our fears.  Fears are what drum up negative self-talk and limiting beliefs. By emotionally reacting to our fears instead of choosing to respond to our inner wisdom we rob ourselves of opportunities to increase the freedom we have to live the life we desire. 

To be successful in changing our lives, we must realize that our emotions are the key to manifesting our desires.  It is true that we are not automated machines. We feel and therefore we react. What we have though is the freedom to consciously choose how to react to each moment of our lives and even the greatest adversity. Our reactions can get us further toward our joy and prosperity and good health or not.

When you trust your inner wisdom and have the courage to follow it, you learn to take responsibility, without blame or shame, for the life you have experienced. In this process of change, you consciously begin the shift to living your life from the inside-out instead of looking to everyone and everything else to define your life. 

As human beings, we have the innate wisdom and capacity to transform our lives, reach our goals, fulfill our purpose and to be who we are meant to be.  Your journey, no matter how painful, was perfectly choreographed to bring you to where you are now.  And in this moment, as in every moment, you are free to dream bigger, willingly accept your heart’s desires, and to be a positive influence on others and your world.

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We are after all, spiritual beings having a human experience. Reconnecting with our Spirit is in part, remembering that fact about ourselves.

Our lives journey is based on a purpose which relationship and personal growth expert Barbara DeAngelis PhD refers to as remembrance and wholeness.  These terms refer directly to the true essence of our being.  Even further, they connect to the thought that if everything is spirit or Source, we have access to infinite resources…infinite intelligence, infinite abundance, infinite supply, infinite creativity, infinite power, and infinite potential.  These resources include spiritual keys which are available to support our desire to reconnect and nourish our relationship with spirit. These keys can be summarized as follows:

            One – There is nothing closer to you than your inner voice. However it is important to understand that your truth speaks in whispers and your intuition rarely reveals itself with a bang over the head.  You must be willing to create quiet space in your life to listen to the whispers and to uncover your wisdom within.

            Two – Your life’s crisis contain tremendous knowledge and align with your highest good which to learn, grow, and to remember who you are. Looking at crises this was can help you shift your thought process from pain to purpose, from stagnation to liberation.

            Three – What you are looking for is not found in what you have accomplished on the outside but rather knowing and remembering what you have on the inside. Remembering that you come from the Divine and therefore you are whole and complete already empowers you to tap into your inner wisdom and endless possibilities.

            Four – The only way to change happens is by being awake and aware.  This is a state of conscious-awareness.  That’s when you naturally and spontaneously make adjustments toward having more hope and more freedom.  The more conscious you become, the more you see, and the more you are able to move into a positive direction.

            Five – Reconnecting with your Spirit requires inner work. This inner work is a daily commitment to focus on this particular aspect of your life.  Consider starting every day with a thankful heart.  Gratitude helps to refocus your energy and to ground you as you prepare for your day.  It helps you put everything into perspective.

            Six – In our soul’s journey we learn that suffering is optional.  This means that we can choose to live everyday with a heaven on earth – heaven within consciousness. 

            Seven – Knowing what we need and want in life is crucial to being able to ask Source for what we seek. Personal awareness makes it easier to go to a deeper level of connectedness with the Source.  Be willing to ask about everything and anything that is of concern – be it in your relationships, with your kids, your job, your finances, your life purpose, or an appeal for guidance during uncertain times.

There is peace in trusting your existing connection with your Sprit. We are often running around working really hard to make things happen that we often forget our truth.  One of the inside-out lessons which we can embrace is slowing down enough to open ourselves up to the ways in which we are being guided. 

By slowing down enough to gain this guidance, we are given direction, insight, and clarity.  This is when we learn to access, listen, trust and follow our own inner wisdom.  This is when we fuel the fire to connect with our Spirit.  This Divine relationship helps us to overcome our mental and emotional blocks, negative self-talk, and perceived fears while providing everything that we need to take purposeful action.  In this process we align our lives, embrace what is possible, and become the person that we are meant to be!

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I lived holding my breath, stressed out, neck in knots, and mostly oblivious to my world and the people in it, thoroughly unable to enjoy what was happening around me. Just as I thought I had achieved balance, a distraction would make me lose my focus and all my plates would crash to the ground. Many of us find ourselves at this point where we are left feeling frustrated, wiped out, and bewildered. So what do we do to create more balance in our lives?

Balance refers to the harmonious flow or rhythm of life. It is not a static, attainable goal to achieve, and it cannot be put on autopilot.  Rather, it is a way of living that maintains equilibrium between what we receive and what we give out to others and the world.

 With a need to learn more about creating a balanced life, I welcomed the opportunity to speak with best-selling author and worldwide educator, Dr. Felice Dunas. Dr. Dunas stated that, “The essential forces in life – physical, metaphysical, scientific, spiritual, and intellectual – have as their base the principles of balance”. 

Over time many of us have trained our bodies to operate in a mode of chronic stress in order to try to meet the multiple demands for our time.  We create an imbalance supported by a culture that often celebrates over-commitment and overwhelm under the appearance of multi-tasking and over-achieving.  Over time however, this focus creates an imbalance which takes its toll on our emotional, physical, and mental states.

Creating your plan for a balanced life means finding simple things to do daily that counteract the chemistry of stress in our bodies.  Creating a balanced life means seeking calming, grounding, restorative things.  That way, you teach our internal system – your brain and body – to stop reacting and start relaxing from the inside-out.

You will need to take definite action to calm them down.  You will not come out of this by accident and cannot be inactive expecting a miracle.  You will begin to make progress when you embrace the need to be intentional about your time and about changing your environment.  You will also learn to become open to how much support and assistance you may require from others in your life in order to meet your needs.

Working to invite balance in our lives can be done in what, for some people may seem to be a counterintuitive way, it begins with increasing structure in your life. The following are three components Dr. Dunas shares for achieving and maintaining balance;

Go to bed early.  One hour of sleep before midnight is equivalent to sleeping three hours after midnight. Many of us have grown accustomed to keeping irregular hours and have succumbed to poor sleeping habits.  Making practical adjustments such as recording your favorite late night TV shows and watching them during the daytime or early evening helps to manage an early to bed and early to rise cycle.

Take regular breaks from your life.  Even if your home feels like a sanctuary and has a gentle energy, it can be a reminder of life’s stresses.  No matter what your obligations are and to whom, you are wise to consistently remove yourself from your home environment.  Feeling relief from stress reveals more of who you are without those burdens.  As you discover what that feels like, it helps you define your no-stress baseline. You may be surprised at the contrast.  Consistency is more important than the amount of time you take or how far away you go. Creating islands in time within which you can reset your soul is  an option available to you. Will you give yourself one night a month to sleep away from home?  Can you take one evening a week? Four days each quarter?

Write yang and yin lists. Yin, the receptive principle, means to receive.  Yang, the creative principle, means to contribute, or give. Your Yang list includes everything you did on an “average” day that provided service for or contributed to others.  The Yin list includes all your activities on that day that you did for yourself, your peace, and your happiness.  Then compare your lists.  How much of your day is dedicated to serving others?  How much is dedicated to serving yourself and your own needs? Does this list reflect the way that you want to be living?

Remember that creating a plan for your balanced life is not a finite goal but rather a way of living everyday using foundational practices to focus your intention and attention.  It is the process of flow that avoids stagnation or neglect of any aspects of ourselves.  It involves maintaining equilibrium between giving and receiving within our relationships, our roles, our duties, and ourselves. e

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Why? Because a lot of time indoors can lead to a feeling of seclusion and makes it harder to avoid the clutter in our home and life that has accumulated over time. Not only are we faced with the clutter but also, we have to confront the feelings about the clutter. It may be hard to admit but the clutter in our lives is also a reflection of our inner clutter.  

How can those stacked up credit card bills or medical bills be a reflection of inner clutter? Those bills could be a reminder of a time when a loved one was very ill, when a big ticket appliance or car unexpectedly broke down, a layoff from work, impulsive shopping or poor budgeting.  Mental clutter can chip away a sense of inner peace, causing a variety of emotional issues such as stress or low self-esteem. This can lead to depression, which can deplete your energy.

A low self-esteem can create negative feelings. Negative feelings create negative energy. This negative energy will drain your physical energy, therefore preventing you from moving forward and living your Ultimate Life

Three main ways we create outer clutter is through the inner clutter of avoidance, procrastination and indecision.

AVOIDANCE

Any task or feeling you are trying to avoid will remain there until you face it. Remember the old saying “what your resist persists”. Avoiding dealing with the belongings of a family member who has passed may represent an inability to deal with the feelings of grief and loss often experienced. Avoiding the bills that keep stacking up could reflect an avoidance of feeling like a failure and dealing a financial situation. 

PROCRASTINATION                            

Many people procrastinate because they do not want to experience specific feelings. These emotions, such as sadness, nervousness and resentfulness add to our inner clutter. Why do theses emotions lead us to procrastinate?  It is likely masking a deeper issue, such as, not wanting to be responsible, fear of success, creating convenient distractions from doing bigger and better things.

INDECISION

Not deciding is a decision.  If grandma left twenty knick knacks, feelings of obligation and guilt to keep them may surface. So, instead of making a decision on which items to donate or gift to someone else, indecision perpetuates again not dealing with the “feelings” surrounding the clutter in our lives. 

ELIMINATE NEGATIVE CLUTTER FROM THE INSIDE-OUT

Determine what is important to you and what your true feelings are.

• Break down the clutter into sections. Write on a piece of paper the den, hall closet, garage, etc. and identify what you would like to do in these area, so you can do a little at a time and not feel overwhelmed.
• Under each section determine what feelings are represented by each area of clutter. Is there a fear of gaining weight again so clothes that don’t fit are piled in the closet?  Do all the unanswered creditor calls on the answering machine bring up feelings of shame and unworthiness?

Establish priorities. 

• Make lists to help you determine importance of what clutter areas to tackle first.
• Set goals and break them into manageable sections.
• Once you have created this list, work on completing your most challenging areas first.  Break up the mail into sections, such as, junk mail, credit card bills, medical bills, etc. Then go through each stack and determine what can be shredded and what needs to be paid.  Completing the more important goal first will help motivate you to go onto the next goal.
• Create a daily routine to help you maintain a clutter free life. Break your routine into sections, such as morning, afternoon and night. Actually schedule a few minutes each day for a specific area where clutter tends to stack up. For example, take no more than five minutes each day to clear off the kitchen table of bills or kids school work. Schedule in a day when you want to go through those old clothes. Lists are great because you can cross things off once they are completed. That is satisfaction! 

You will be amazed at how peaceful and successful a positive, clutter-free life can be. It will bring new clarity and open space to receive more abundance and opportunity to live your Ultimate Life. e

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Great, but if you’re like me, those lists will gather dust pretty quickly, and the ones that usually stayed with me in years gone by only bogged me down with guilt and unrealistic expectations.

So how do we “do life” differently than we did last year? I mean, what’s the deciding factor?

For me, the answer lives and breathes in one word.

Purpose.

It’s something I’ve wrestled with over the last twenty years, and here’s why:

Purpose is one of those things that eludes you until you ultimately find it where you weren’t looking. In other words, purpose is in you already. But we think it’s something we have to find “out there.” The key is to tap our inner wisdom from the Inside-Out.

Purpose isn’t something you can calculate or intellectualize. It isn’t a left-brain process, where you figure out the formula for better living through numbers and charts.

Purpose is like oxygen. Without it, you can’t inhale life fully and can’t live to your potential. But millions of people push on, without a sense of purpose, gasping for breath in all the wrong places.

Purpose is our birthright. But too many people figure it’s something only visionaries deserve, when in fact, it’s the very reason we’re here. To live with purpose and to bring that purpose to life.

I’ve thought long and hard about purpose. I’ve certainly lived without a clear sense of it at times in my life, and know now, with a fire in my gut, that purpose is one of the most important aspects of living an “ultimate life.”

I know how difficult it is to define and embrace your purpose, to live it and fuel it. That’s why I want to share my “5 Pathways of Purposeful Living” with you, so you can start paving your Path to Purpose immediately.

1. PASSION: I can’t tell you how many people I’ve met who have zero passion for life only because they’re desperately caught up in the grind, spinning their wheels, trying to make ends meet while they get stuck somewhere in the middle. Truth is, you can’t find your purpose without igniting your passion. Where do you find it? Do anything, I mean anything that excites, inspires and recharges you. If that means sipping on a caramel mocha frappasomething, then do it. If it means jumping out of a plane for kicks, then, by all means, pull that chute! Do one thing that scares you─in a good way. Move yourself—from the inside out. You need to kickstart your engine. Enlist a friend for mutual support.
2. PERSPECTIVE: Purpose gets lost in the clouds for most people when we lose perspective. I’m talking about making grand lofty plans that have no basis in reality and then feeling betrayed by our “purpose.” That wasn’t purpose to begin with. In order to discover and honor our purpose, we need to see the forest and the trees. We need context. Where are you in your life right at this very moment? Forget about the plans that fell through six years ago, the dream you had that never materialized, the person who you feel thwarted your efforts. Your “story” about what happened in the past may be hindering your ability to see your life with clarity and perspective, from the many angles that shed light on our truth. When we can let go of old perceptions and gain a new perspective on where we are standing today, we make room for purpose to reveal itself.
3. POSSIBILITY: This is a tricky one. We often make the mistake of believing that once we have our purpose, the rest just falls into place. But this is a kind of bait and switch thinking that people tend to buy into when the Path to Purpose hits a few potholes. The truth is, we need to first believe in possibility and then we can begin to tap our inner purposefulness. Possibility precedes purpose. What’s the use of defining a vision or a calling if you’re going to worry 24/7 about how to make it happen? The Law of Purposeful Living (I’m officially calling it a law) says that we must believe without doubt in the world of possibility. Purpose without possibility is like inspiration without action. The whole purpose of purpose… is to bring it into the realm of the possible. We’re designed to live it out—or we’ll never live it down.
4. PERMISSION:  You’re humming along now and you’re thinking, “OK I’ve got the first three under my belt” and then screeeech! You’ve hit the brakes. How many of us are all grown up and still wrestling with the old tapes in our heads about getting permission to even think our own thoughts? People from all walks of life just don’t feel deeply at peace about their own choices without feeling somehow they’ll backfire. Here’s the truth: we don’t need to get permission from others to have a purpose. Just like intuition, purpose dwells in us from the moment we’re born. We just let it get buried until we forget we ever had it. We are not here to roam the grounds in search of someone else’s dream. We don’t need permission to live purposefully anymore than we need permission to breathe or love. Permit yourself to own your purpose.
5. 5.     POWER:  Which brings me to my favorite misunderstood word in the English language. Power! We fight over it, struggle for it, destroy our lives in pursuit of it—but it isn’t real power we’re after. All of our hostilities and fears over our perception of power is really control in disguise. But the purpose of power is to re-orient us back to our original inner life force, our power to choose, to change, to question, to connect, to move away from energies that drain us and move toward creating experiences that engage us. That’s what being “empowered” really means. That’s the whole core of purpose: Feeling empowered in your life so that you want to engage in it! You want to engage others. You want to be a powerful life force, not someone who has power over someone else, but a person who has power within. Access your inner Warrior.

You want to know my purpose? To do everything I can to lead you to your ultimate life.

So, that said, here’s a final P: PROMISE. First of all, I promise that if you follow these P’s you will find your purpose and live the life of your dreams. And second, I feel so passionate about helping people to create and live their best lives, that I want to give you my solemn promise that I’ll guide you on a journey that will not only help you to ignite your sense of purpose but blow the ceiling off your life… for a year like no other. 

Happy Purposeful New Year!  e

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As you know, dad was a talker and he loved to torment people – it was his way to show his love, which was extended to most everyone.

What I find most remarkable about my dad is how much he loved my mom. They met in my grandparents’ basement and from that day my mom never let him go.

They were each other’s best friend, pal and confidant. They kissed and held hands all the time like school kids. In the last 20 years I can’t remember a time when one of them left the house that they didn’t say I love you. Their love stood the enduring test of time and it was unbreakable. It was a true love story.

He also loved his family, his sisters Mildred and Virginia. And, did he love the kids and grandkids! Sherri and Linda you were daughters he never had and Mike you where his buddy and in his heart I know he loved you like a son.

Alekxey, Ronnie, David, Carol, Krista and all of the grandkids — he had a glimmer in his eye and heart for each of you as well.

I know my dad was proud of me because he told me many times and he showed me unconditional love. I dedicated the book I have coming out in a few months to mom and dad and this is what I wrote:

“This book is dedicated to my dad and mom, Ralph and Kelly Miller.

They have always been my biggest cheerleaders.

I’m forever grateful for their unconditional love and belief in me.”

The only regret that I have is that I will not be able to experience with him the book itself as I wrote about some of our challenges and joys while I was growing up.

Allow me to share a little of what I wrote:

“As a little kid my dad—my hero—was a good, hard-working man with a big heart. To this day, he hasn’t changed much. He still wears blue jeans with pliers hanging from his belt, a button down shirt, cowboy boots, and his straw cowboy hat. When I was a little guy, I wore jeans with pliers on my belt just like him. I walked like him in my own cowboy boots and trailed right behind him in his footsteps.

“However, like most kids when I was about ten and well into my teens our relationship changed. We fought a lot and most of the time mom was caught in the middle refereeing. I blamed my dad for everything that wasn’t going the way I thought it should.

“It wasn’t until I was in my mid-twenties that our relationship started to shift. For years I focused my attention on what I perceived my dad was doing wrong. In reality, I was so unhappy with myself and I had no outlet but to project it on my dad.

“Luckily, we started easing up on each other and we learned to create some safe boundaries—we don’t talk about politics, religion and a couple of other topics that will quickly head us in the wrong direction.

“Don’t get me wrong, he still drives me crazy at times, because I’m a planner and he has no idea how the day will unfold.

“However, I’ve discovered the many ways in which we are alike.

“The little guy in cowboy boots grew up with a belief in God, a relentless determination to achieve his goals, hard headed at times, a persistent attitude to do whatever it takes, and a heart as big as Texas… just like my dad.”

I love you Pop!